By Lorena Reynoso-Singh
The other day something rare, precious and phenomenal happened to me. I was surprised with the unexpected gift of 45 minutes to myself in the middle of the day. My husband had a surprise errand he had to run which would take him that amount of time to complete and my son had an impromptu play date a few houses down and I…was…all…alone
The Should Trap
I was beside myself with anticipation over how to use the invaluable treasure. My mommy brain defaulted to the efficient, productive and responsible ideas of what I “should” get done: fold laundry, process the mail that piled up, organize a drawer, load up the dishwasher, prep for the next meal etc.
Kindness = A Pep In Your Step
I’ve been on the self-care journey long enough though, to know that when these kind of opportunities present themselves, the best thing to do is treat myself to those things I can’t do when others are around (unless they’re my girl buddies over for a planned girlfriend pampering session). Loving myself enough to treat myself to kind acts that are creative, relaxing, fun or nourishing, undeniably and unfailingly always inoculate my day with the chutzpah needed to get the “should’s” done happily.
Self-Kindness Leads To Larger Bandwidth
That chutzpah is what gives me the bandwidth for more attention to detail where it makes a difference like smiley face strawberries on my son’s pancake instead of just tossed on top or putting a little elbow grease and my heart into a card for a friends’ birthday instead of buying it.
Over Thinking It Took Precious Time
The downside of that momentous occasion the other day was that due to being hardwired in the habit of doing things for myself in the morning, I ended up spending half of the time thinking what best way to use it, what a time waster! I think of self-care all the time and write about it every week, but I’m a planner at heart, so thinking on my feet on such an occasion was not my strong point. I thought to myself “What if there was a fun and easier way to access those great self-loving ideas when I needed them?”
Bored Jar For Kids
The sweet idea of the bored jar for kids that is all the craze on Pinterest. It’s a fun and easy way for kids to access ideas of things to do when their bored. Ideas are written on popsicle sticks as opposed to having them on paper and some parents also color coded them according to categories such as things to make, do outside, do inside etc.
A Great Model
There are benefits to this idea over simply having these ideas on a paper such as, the stick not getting lost like a paper because they have a designated place in the jar, their more durable then the paper to wear and tear and the color coded categories makes them easier to choose from and nice to look at.
Bored Jar Meets Mommy’s Self-Care
Today I will share with you how I took the bored jar idea and applied it to my impromptu situation to create a self-care jar!! I first sat down and brainstormed a list of things to treat myself to and grouped them according to increments of time from 1-5 minutes, 5-10 minutes, 10-15 minutes, 15-20 and 25+ and wrote them on popsicle sticks. I then color coded them according to the time increments with different colored washi tape.
I had so much fun making this it felt like a self-care treat just putting it together!
This is a great and inexpensive DIY to make for ourselves or a friend, especially those that are new parents. For those of you that are not parents but are needing a fun way to bring variety into your self-care, why not play self-care roulette with yourself and try out a new idea every day during your allotted self-care time?
Here are lists of what I wrote in the time increments, some overlap and that’s why there are many colors on one stick. This is how I made the key on the label
Here is a picture of some of the actual sticks
1-5 minutes Red
- Light some incense
- Eat a nourishing snack: almonds, fruit, yogurt etc.
- File your nails
- Hydrate well: simple water or with electrolytes
- Roll feet on foot massager
- Stretch with a yoga posture
- Pinch some modeling clay between your fingers
5-10 minutes Orange
- Color in my adult coloring book
- Comb your scalp and hair
- Roll feet on foot massager longer
- Work hand puzzle toy
- Stretch with more yoga postures
- Mold modeling clay into something
- Fill out a page in my adult dot to dot book
- Paint with water colors
- Write a thank you note to someone to mail
- Walk outside
- Draw in a doodle
- Journal gratitude’s
- Watch a Steve Harvey clip and laugh!
- Prepare a smoothie
- Spill unedited thoughts in journal with a Brain dump
- Make yourself a cup of tea
10-15 minutes Yellow
- Put your feet in a bucket of hot Epsom salt water
- Paint more with water colors
- Stretch with more postures
- Hand puzzle
- Take on a Rush Hour Game challenge
- Start and finish a word search puzzle or sudoku puzzle in those books
- Polish your nails and set to dry
- Walk outside
- Journal more gratitude’s
- Color a page in your adult coloring book
- Draw a doodle in your journal
- Prepare a yummy meal for yourself
- Watch two Steve Harvey clips
15-20 minutes Green
- Complete a set of yoga postures
- A long walk outside
- Read more
- Journal your heart out!
- a longer gratitude list
- Color more in coloring book
- Draw more doodles in journal
- Prepare a meal for yourself and eat by candlelight
- Take an Epsom salt bath 30 min (Consider the 10min prep scrub and waiting for water to fill)
- Watch a full episode of the Steve Harvey show
For everything over 20 minutes I colored with blue washi tape. I plan to have this jar handy in my home so that next time that precious window of time shows up, I’ll be ready!
How do you show up for your self-care when surprised with time all to yourself?
Lorena is a writer, teacher and mother of an active 7-year old. Find out more out her passion for creating morning routines that transform habits and lives at https://yourmorningpower.com