Researchers actually found a rhythm for the fights between moms and adolescent daughters. Battles normally occur when a mom and daughter come home at the end of the day. Mom tries to assert her control and daughter tries to maintain her free, out of sight independence. Mom asks questions, perhaps too many questions. Daughter reacts in that singular-minded way adolescent girls do. She feels like she is suspected of doing something wrong and doesn’t stop to think logically that her mom may simply be interested in her life. Tensions arise on both sides and an erupting battlefield is inevitable.
Reaping the Spoils: The Positives of a Fair Battle
It may be hard for you or your daughter to believe it in the heat of battle, but fighting is and can be productive. Fair fighting can…
- Release tension and clear the air.
- Keep important issues from festering, growing, and erupting into major warfare later.
- Resolve issues and promote worthwhile change.
- Serve as a vehicle to express emotions and problems that need attention and keep mother and daughter close.
- Help your daughter build problem-solving skills.